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‘If you don’t ask, you don’t get’ Roundup

[Check the original publication on the She Says website]

Our second event for 2012 was an exciting interactive workshop around the subject of ‘If you don’t ask, you don’t get’.

We were very lucky to have the generous space of Ninefold, a cloud computing and cloud storage company, that boasted some seriously glamorous views of Sydney’s CBD.

However, there were more than just glamorous views on offer. Here are few highlights:

Laura Peck, Digital Director, Starcomm Mediavest

  • Before asking for what you want, ask yourself what is it that you bring to the business.
  • Loyalty. It was a common response from the group, however it is not good enough. Your boss will expect you to be loyal the moment you join a company. So think again!
  • Make it easy for people to see your value by quantifying it. For example: “I helped to increase our client’s spending by 30%”

Brandie Foote, Gestalt Counsellor

  • Examine your inner critic and look at how it is preventing you getting the things you want. Do you stop yourself because your inner critic tells you that you are not good enough?
  • Explore where or how your inner critic has emerged. Understanding this can help you tackle your inner critic head-on. Was it the conditioning of your parents?
  • Be kind to yourself. You’ll never be able to completely lose your inner critic, but you can learn how to control it.

Rebecca Caines, Life Coach, Sparks Elite

  • Consider where is the best place to ask for what you want. A casual coffee off-site may work better for you than your boss’ office.
  • Be aware of your body. 97% of our communication comes from non-verbal cues.
  • Take care with your choice of language and be clear about what you want the end outcome to be.

Lizi Hamer, Senior Art Director, Saatchi & Saatchi

  • Remember you are not alone in achieving your end goal. Let people support you – even those that don’t know you.
  • Be ambitious with your goals. The more you stretch yourself, the more you grow.
  • The most important person you need to ask – is you. What do you expect from yourself?

As you can see the 70-strong crowd of women were very lucky to have such wonderful speakers imparting their wisdom and paving the way for us to get what we want.